Dismantling has been a theme for this past year. Dismantling myself from an unhealthy marriage and life. Dismantling the layers of self limiting beliefs and fear that subconsciously existed and guided me. Dismantling my physical space. Dismantling my unawareness of the world around me. It has been a beautiful and painful process. That’s life, isn’t it.
This is now my second Mother’s Day weekend as a single mother. It has definitely not been an easy year but it has been one of connection and unconditional love and support. Creating a safe and peaceful home for us has been my priority and we’ve done just that. We are 3 months in our new home and love our space and spending time together (and alone) in it. I know my daughters are learning the coping skills to overcome and thrive in all life’s experiences. They’ve been through a lot in their short lives but they know how much they are loved and heard.
This past week was Mental Heath week with the tag line ‘Name it. Don’t numb it’. It always helps to talk about what is going on in your head in a safe space. And by safe space, I mean sharing with someone who will allow you to experience your emotions without inserting their own judgement. Emotions are powerful teachers if you let them teach you the lessons. It is in those lessons that you take your power back.
After my last post where I mentioned toxic positivity, I’ve had a lot of conversations with people around it. People truly want to be supportive but sometimes their words don’t allow for the person to express what is in their heads and hearts. I saw this on Instagram and thought it was an excellent explanation. I actually got rid of a mug that said ‘good vibes only’ and told the girls all vibes are ok.
So the dismantling stage of my life is over. Now I am in the opposite of dismantling stage. Check out these antonyms! Build, Create, Restore, Raise. These are some empowering words to live by.
Sending lots of love out this Saturday morning.
Only joy, only love (and all the shit in between).
Until next time,